快乐时要感谢,悲伤时要从容
the happiness person on earth isn’t always happy. in fact, the happiness people all have their fair share of low moods, problems, disappointments, and heartache. often the difference between a person who is happy and someone who is unhappy isn’t how often they get low, or even how low they drop, but instead, it’s what they do with their low moods. how do they relate to their changing feelings
most people have it backward. when they are feeling down, they roll up their sleeves and get to work. they take their low moods very seriously and try to figure out and analyze what’s wrong. they try to force themselves out of their low state, which problem rather than solve it.
when you observe peaceful, relaxed people, you find that when they are feeling good, they are very grateful. they understand that both positive and negative feelings come and go, and that there will come a time when they won’t be feeling so good. to happy people, this is ok, it’s the way of things. they accept the inevitability of passing feelings. so, when they are feeling d
EPRessed, angry, of stressed out, they relate to these feelings with the same openness and wisdom. rather than fight their feelings and panic simply because they are feeling bad, they accept their feelings, knowing that this too shall pass. rather than stumbling and fighting against their negative feelings, they are graceful in their acceptance of them. this allows them to come gently and gracefully out of negative feeling states into more positive states of mind. one of the happiest people i know is someone who also gets quite low from time to time. the difference, it seems, is that he has become comfortable with his low moods. it’s almost as though he doesn’t really care because he knows that, in due time, he will be happy again. to him, it’s no big deal.
the next time you’re feeling bad, rather than fight it, try to relax. see if, instead of panicking, you can be graceful and calm. know that if you don’t fight your negative feelings, if you are graceful, they will pass away just as surely as the sun sets in the evening.
世界上最开心的人并不是永远都是快乐的。事实上，最快乐的人也会有情绪低落，难事困身，伤心失意之时。通常来说，区分一个快乐的和一个不快乐的人的关键，就是看他们情绪低落的周期，或是他们情绪低落的程度。换句话说，就是要看他们处理低落情绪的方式。他们是怎么调整心情的？
很多人会采取回避的方式。当他们情绪低落时，就拼命工作。他们非常在意这种低落的情绪，总是努力的往领会和分析题目出在哪里。想方想法地强迫自己摆脱这种昏暗的情绪，结果往往是题目越弄越复杂，却没有得到解决。
当你往观察一个心静平和，身心放松的人时，你就会发现：当他们快乐的时候，是心存感激的。他们明白积极和消极的情绪是来来往往波动的，在某个心情不太好的时候，就会随之而来。对于快乐的人来说，这没什么，这是事情的必经之路。他们能够接受这种情绪来临的必然性。因此，当他们感到沮丧，生气，或者有其它相关压抑心情的时候，同时也拥有开朗、明智的心情，他们不是由于感觉到很糟糕而与这些心情作斗争，或者是没有理由得惊惶失措，而是从容的对待这种情绪，他们相信一切都会过往的。他们没有被击倒，也没有与那种消极的情绪作斗争，他们从容地接受着现实。这就让他们逐渐摆脱了消极情绪的影响，具有一种更加积极的心态。我熟悉一个很快乐的人，可有时他也非常消极。但不同的是，情绪低落的他似乎反而觉得很舒适。似乎他根本就不在意这种心情，由于他知道经过那段时间，他又会快乐起来。对他来说这没有什么了不起。
下次在你心情很坏的时候，不要进行心理斗争，放松一点而不是惊惶失措，这样你也可以变得从容、平和。假如你从容地面对，而不是与你消极的情绪抗争的话，它们就会像傍晚落山的太阳一样，很快地过往。
H A P P I N E S S
There is no way to happiness , happiness is a way !
[此贴子已经被作者于2005-6-14 9:28:32编辑过]
if you are graceful, they will pass away just as surely as the sun sets in the evening.
when i feel unhappy , I can't control myself以下是引用
可乐在2005-6-17 15:18:31的发言：
when i feel unhappy , I can't control myself
crying
you always know what i want to say .
When I become rich and successful , I will be very happy !
I am so poor now ,so I am not happy
poor Ithink that`s not the reason.
发表于 2010-9-13 06:19:55